Stop Shrinking. Start trusting yourself.
Therapy for women in the messy middle of life and identity in Redlands, CA and online across California — a space to reconnect with your worth and live with confidence and ease.
You’ve spent years holding it all together. Now you’re wondering… what about me?
You’ve been the steady one. The strong one. The one everyone turns to.
You’ve done the work — therapy, books, podcasts, journaling — and you understand yourself more than ever. You know how old patterns of caretaking and self-doubt took root. You know why you’ve learned to keep the peace, to stay small, to make room for everyone but yourself.
But insight alone hasn’t been enough to bring the ease you long for.
You still feel heavy. Tired. Caught between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.
Midlife has a way of stirring things up — shifting roles, changing relationships, unexpected loss. What once felt clear now feels uncertain. Grief you thought you’d moved through shows up in new, quieter layers. You may feel disconnected from yourself, unsure what you want, or guilty for wanting more.
“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you are”
You don’t need to keep proving your worth.
Therapy with me is a place to lay it all down—the striving, the self-criticism, the quiet guilt of wanting more. Together, we slow things down so you can hear what your body, your emotions, and your deeper self have been trying to say all along.
My approach blends compassionate presence, somatic awareness, and parts work to help you reconnect with the wisdom already within you. You’ll learn to:
Trust yourself, even when uncertainty shows up
Set boundaries that honor your needs without guilt
Soften the harsh inner critic that keeps you small
Remember your inherent worth—without having to earn it
This is the work of coming home to yourself—of reclaiming your voice, your rest, and your joy.
Hi, I’m Kathy and
I’m so glad you are here.
Let me start by saying this: You’re not broken—and you’re not doing it wrong.
Being human, especially in a world that often asks you to override your own needs, is hard. And when you’ve lived through relational wounds, life transitions, or long-term stress, it can feel like your mind, body, and emotions are pulling in different directions. That’s not failure—that’s adaptation.
So many of us were never taught how to navigate emotions safely, how to feel at home in our bodies, or how to stay connected in relationships that feel complicated. You may have internal parts that work hard to keep you safe—through perfectionism, numbing, people-pleasing, or constant overthinking—even if those strategies are no longer serving you.
In our work together, we’ll gently bring curiosity and compassion to the parts of you that carry old pain or protective roles. We’ll listen not just to your thoughts, but to your nervous system—learning how your body holds your story, and how to create safety from the inside out.
This isn’t about fixing you. It’s about coming home to yourself—with more choice, more connection, and more room to breathe.
Learn more about working with me >
Specialties and Offerings
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Anxiety
Anxiety doesn’t always look like panic—it can look like overthinking, perfectionism, or always feeling “on.” I help midlife women slow down the racing thoughts, reconnect with their inner voice, and feel more grounded in their bodies. Together, we’ll gently unwind old patterns so you can move through the world with more calm, clarity, and self-trust.
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Grief
Grief takes many forms — not just the loss of a loved one, but also the quiet ache of identity shifts, unmet childhood needs, or the life you thought you'd have. Whether your grief is fresh or decades old, clear or complicated, our work can help you make sense of what you’re carrying, reconnect with yourself, and move forward with compassion. You don’t have to grieve alone.
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Life Transitions
Life transitions can stir up more than just change—they can awaken old grief, shake your sense of identity, and leave you feeling unmoored. Whether you're navigating shifts in career, relationships, motherhood, aging, or purpose, therapy can offer a grounded space to pause, reflect, and reconnect with your inner wisdom. You don’t have to move through it alone.
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Workshops & Retreats
You don’t have to do this work alone.
In community with other thoughtful, like-hearted women, you’re invited to explore self-growth, creativity, and the deeper call of your own becoming. Using expressive arts and the research-based Daring Way™ curriculum by Dr. Brené Brown, these groups offer a space to reconnect with your inner wisdom, your courage, and your capacity for meaningful connection.
Getting Started Is Simple
A gentle path toward clarity, connection, and growth
1. Let’s Talk
Free Consultation
A 20-minute phone call to see if we feel like a good fit. There’s no pressure—just a chance to be hearad and to ask questions in a supportive space.
2. Commit to the Process
Therapy That Honors Your Time
Together we’ll choose a regular time to meet. Therapy is an investment and I hold that with care. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
3. Begin the Unfolding
A Space for True Change
As trust grow, new insights and shifts emerge. This is where old patterns begin to soften and the real you starts to feel safe enough to be seen.
You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself.
Therapy can help you discover that you are worthy of love, respect, and care—without needing to prove or earn it.
Imagine being able to trust yourself, feel more at ease in your body, and show up in your relationships with confidence and clarity. That change is possible—and it can begin today.
Self-trust is possible
