Therapist in Redlands
Online Therapist in Redlands and throughout California for women who feel overwhelmed and alone.
When You Feel Too Much and Never Enough at the Same Time
You feel like you can’t take it anymore. There are moments you want to crawl out of your own skin. You are so tired of being you, tired of trying so hard to get it right. You keep spinning your wheels, trying to say the right thing and do the right thing, yet somehow it never feels like enough. Someone is always disappointed. You cannot shake the feeling that people are mad at you no matter how careful you are. No matter how much you give or adjust, it feels like you still mess it up.
You live in this constant tension of being too much and not enough at the same time. Your feelings feel too big and too heavy for the room. You are exhausted from monitoring yourself, from managing how you show up, from hoping someone will finally understand you. You want to feel seen. You want to feel like you can be yourself without paying the price for it.
It feels like you have spent your whole life shape shifting and contorting yourself just to belong or keep the peace, and even then it still does not work. You still end up feeling terrible. You have learned to squash parts of yourself just to stay in relationships, but lately even that is not holding anything together. You feel alone in it, like no matter how much you try to connect, something always gets in the way.
Sometimes it feels like you were made different, like something in you is broken and you will never figure it out. You feel too much to make life work the way other people seem to. You ache for relief, for some sense of safety inside yourself, yet it feels out of reach. You just want to stop feeling like you have to apologize for existing.
You don’t need to keep proving your worth.
Therapy with me is a place to lay it all down—the striving, the self-criticism, the quiet guilt of wanting more. Together, we slow things down so you can hear what your body, your emotions, and your deeper self have been trying to say all along.
My approach blends compassionate presence, somatic awareness, and parts work to help you reconnect with the wisdom already within you. You’ll learn to:
Trust yourself, even when uncertainty shows up
Set boundaries that honor your needs without guilt
Soften the harsh inner critic that keeps you small
Remember your inherent worth—without having to earn it
This is the work of coming home to yourself—of reclaiming your voice, your rest, and your joy.
You can feel grounded inside yourself again
Hi, I am Kathy, a therapist in Redlands, CA. I help women rebuild their inner foundations so they can move through the world with steadiness and self-trust. My clients learn to stop feeling ashamed of their emotions and begin creating more safety to be their full selves in their relationships. They learn to trust their internal world and communicate honestly with the people they care about. They learn to understand what belongs to them and what does not so they can stop absorbing every feeling in the room.
Clients often tell me they feel seen and understood in our work together. They describe finally having space to breathe. That is the beginning of relief.
Learn more about working with me >
What our work looks like
Our sessions help you reconnect with yourself. You may feel uncertain or blank at first. You may say you do not feel anything or that emotions seem silly or excessive. That is completely okay. We start right where you are.
You learn to notice your sensations, needs, patterns, and reactions. You begin to understand why you shut down, overgive, collapse, or tense up in certain moments. You learn to separate your truth from someone else’s emotional storm. You learn how to stay connected to yourself even when things get hard. These are the internal boundaries that change everything.
Healing takes time. You may revisit old patterns, and that can feel discouraging, but each time you return with more awareness and choice. In weekly sessions, I teach you skills that you practice between sessions so they become part of your daily life. The goal is not perfection. The goal is clarity, relief, and connection.
When you learn to listen to yourself, everything changes
You begin to recognize what you need before you reach the point of exhaustion. You feel less responsible for other people’s emotions. You stop taking every shift in tone as a sign that you did something wrong. You feel clearer, calmer, and more grounded. You show up in relationships without losing yourself.
You do not have to keep doing this alone
If you are tired of holding everything in, therapy can offer a steady place to rest and rebuild. Relationship counseling online gives you room to sort through what is yours, let go of what is not, and create the internal safety you have been longing for.
Frequently Asked Questions
What kinds of women do you usually work with?
I work with women who feel overwhelmed, anxious, and disconnected from their own needs. Many appear capable and composed on the outside while feeling exhausted, lonely, and unsure of themselves on the inside.
What are internal boundaries?
Internal boundaries help you know what is yours and what is not. They help you separate your emotions from other people’s emotions so you do not take everything personally.
What if I am not in touch with my feelings?
Many women start therapy feeling blank or unsure. This often comes from years of pushing emotions aside. Therapy helps you reconnect gently and at a pace that feels manageable.
I am afraid I will feel silly talking about my feelings?
That fear makes sense. Many clients were taught that their emotions were too much. Therapy creates a space where your emotional experience is valid and welcome.
Will this help me stop absorbing other people’s emotions?
Yes. You learn how to notice what is happening inside you, identify what belongs to someone else, and stay connected to yourself even when others are upset.
Do you work with relationship concerns even if the other person is not present?
Absolutely. Most relationship work begins with understanding your own patterns, needs, and boundaries.
Is online therapy effective?
Yes. Many clients find that online therapy helps them feel more comfortable and grounded so they can do deeper internal work.
How long will therapy take?
There is no set timeline. Some clients feel relief within a few months, while others choose longer term work to support deeper change. We check in regularly about your pace and goals.
Specialities and Offerings
Getting Started Is Simple
A gentle path toward clarity, connection, and growth
1. Let’s Talk
Free Consultation
A 20-minute phone call to see if we feel like a good fit. There’s no pressure—just a chance to be hearad and to ask questions in a supportive space.
2. Commit to the Process
Therapy That Honors Your Time
Together we’ll choose a regular time to meet. Therapy is an investment and I hold that with care. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
3. Begin the Unfolding
A Space for True Change
As trust grow, new insights and shifts emerge. This is where old patterns begin to soften and the real you starts to feel safe enough to be seen.
You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself.
Therapy can help you discover that you are worthy of love, respect, and care—without needing to prove or earn it.
Imagine being able to trust yourself, feel more at ease in your body, and show up in your relationships with confidence and clarity. That change is possible—and it can begin today.
Self-trust is possible
