Why You Always Feel Responsible for Everyone Else's Emotions
Kathy Jaffe Kathy Jaffe

Why You Always Feel Responsible for Everyone Else's Emotions

Someone walks into the room and something has shifted in their energy — and before you've had a single conscious thought, something in you has already moved. Already scanning. Already calculating what happened, whether it's your fault, and what you need to do to fix it. If this sounds familiar, it didn't start as a character flaw. It started as a solution. Here's where it comes from and what begins to shift in therapy.

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Growing Up With Emotionally Unavailable Parents — How It Shapes Your Adult Relationships
Kathy Jaffe Kathy Jaffe

Growing Up With Emotionally Unavailable Parents — How It Shapes Your Adult Relationships

There's a particular kind of loneliness that comes from growing up in a home where the lights were on but nobody was quite there. If you find yourself working incredibly hard to keep relationships stable, feeling chronically unseen even in loving relationships, or struggling to know what you actually want — the patterns you learned early may still be running. Here's what that looks like and what healing makes possible.

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Relational Trauma vs. Big-T Trauma — What's the Difference
Kathy Jaffe Kathy Jaffe

Relational Trauma vs. Big-T Trauma — What's the Difference

Most people think of trauma as a single dramatic event — something with a clear before and after. But relational trauma works differently. It accumulates through repeated experiences that taught the predictive part of your brain something about what connection means. If you've ever wondered whether what you experienced was "bad enough" to count, this is for you.

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What Is Relational Trauma — And Why So Many Women Don't Know They Have It
Kathy Jaffe Kathy Jaffe

What Is Relational Trauma — And Why So Many Women Don't Know They Have It

Most women who come to therapy for relational trauma don't arrive with that language. They arrive saying they're too sensitive, that they overreact, that they've always been this way. What they haven't been told is that this isn't a personality flaw — it's often the precise and intelligent response of a nervous system that learned, early and thoroughly, that relationships were not entirely safe.

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Top 5 Myths About Therapy in Redlands — and the Truth Behind Them
Kathy Jaffe Kathy Jaffe

Top 5 Myths About Therapy in Redlands — and the Truth Behind Them

There's a lot of misinformation about what therapy actually is, what it costs, and who it's really for. Some of it comes from old cultural scripts. Some from therapy experiences that weren't the right fit. And some of it might be quietly talking you out of reaching out right now.

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FAQs About Therapy, Counseling, and Coaching in Redlands
Kathy Jaffe Kathy Jaffe

FAQs About Therapy, Counseling, and Coaching in Redlands

When you start searching for mental health support, the terminology alone can feel overwhelming. Therapy, counseling, coaching, LCSW, LMFT — it's a lot to sort through before you've had a single conversation. Let's clear up the confusion.

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What to Expect in Your First Therapy Session in Redlands
Kathy Jaffe Kathy Jaffe

What to Expect in Your First Therapy Session in Redlands

Starting therapy takes courage. And if you're anything like most of the women I work with, you've probably spent the days before your first session wondering if you'll say the right thing. Here's what I most want you to know before we begin: you can't do therapy wrong.

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