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Anxiety Therapist in California for Overthinking, Emotional Overwhelm, and Self Doubt

When Anxiety Never Really Turns Off

You are always thinking. Replaying conversations. Anticipating what could go wrong. Trying to stay one step ahead so you do not mess things up or disappoint someone. Even when nothing is obviously wrong, your body feels tense, your mind feels busy, and rest feels just out of reach.

You might look like you are holding it together on the outside, but inside it feels like your nervous system is always bracing. You notice every shift in tone. You wonder if you said too much or not enough. You try to manage your anxiety by being careful, helpful, agreeable, or prepared, yet the worry keeps finding new places to land.

Over time, anxiety can leave you exhausted and disconnected from yourself. You may feel ashamed that you cannot just calm down. You may tell yourself you are overreacting or being dramatic. You might worry that this is just how you are and that it will never really change.

If this feels familiar, you are not broken. Anxiety is not a personal failure. It is often a nervous system response shaped by past experiences, relationships, and the pressure to stay safe, connected, or in control.

Life can feel different than the way it does today.

Understanding Anxiety Through a Trauma Informed Lens

Many people who seek an anxiety therapist in California have tried coping strategies that focus only on managing thoughts or symptoms. While those tools can help, they often do not address the deeper question of why your system feels so activated in the first place.

Anxiety often develops when your nervous system learns that the world, or relationships, feel unpredictable or demanding. You may have learned to stay alert, to scan for problems, or to take responsibility for keeping things okay. These patterns once served a purpose. They helped you adapt. Over time, though, they can leave your body stuck in a state of constant vigilance.

This kind of anxiety does not just live in your thoughts. It lives in your body, your emotions, and your relationships. That is why simply telling yourself to relax or think differently rarely brings lasting relief.

What we’ll work on:

Improve coping skills
Retrain your brain
Set better boundaries
Cultivate more calm and peace

Anxiety Therapy That Helps You Feel Safer Inside Yourself

Therapy with me is not about forcing yourself to be calmer or less sensitive. It is about helping your nervous system learn that it does not have to work so hard anymore.

I am Kathy, an anxiety therapist in California offering online therapy statewide and in person sessions in Redlands, CA. I work with women who feel overwhelmed by anxiety, overthinking, and self doubt, especially when anxiety shows up in relationships, decision making, and emotional regulation.

My approach is trauma informed and relational. I integrate STAIR skills, IFS informed parts work, somatic awareness, and neuroscience based approaches to help you understand how anxiety operates in your system and how to work with it more gently.

In our work together, we focus on building internal safety. You learn how to notice anxiety without becoming consumed by it. You learn how to regulate emotional overwhelm rather than pushing it away. You learn how to trust yourself even when uncertainty is present.Quiet the inner critic and stop overidentifying with fear

Move out of autopilot and into alignment
Rebuild self-trust and deepen your intuition
Create space for your own wants—not just everyone else’s needs
Feel more connected to yourself, your body, and your life

What Begins to Shift as Anxiety Loosens Its Grip

Clients often notice that their minds feel quieter. They spend less time replaying interactions or imagining worst case scenarios. They feel more confident making decisions and less responsible for other people’s reactions.

Emotionally, they feel steadier. Anxiety no longer spikes as intensely or lasts as long. They are able to notice worry without spiraling into self criticism. They feel more present in their relationships and more connected to themselves.

As an anxiety therapist in California, I see again and again that relief comes not from trying harder, but from learning how to feel safer inside your own experience.

You Do Not Have to Keep Managing This Alone

If anxiety has been running your days, your relationships, or your sense of self, therapy can offer a place to slow down and reset. Anxiety therapy can help you understand what your system has been carrying and learn how to move through life with more ease and self trust.

I offer online therapy throughout California and in person sessions in Redlands, CA. If this page resonates, you are welcome to reach out and see if working together feels like a fit.

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What others have wondered about anxiety therapy

Anxiety can look like constant worry, overthinking, difficulty relaxing, tension in your body, irritability, trouble sleeping, or feeling on edge even when things seem fine. For many people, anxiety also shows up in relationships, second guessing yourself, fearing you upset someone, or feeling responsible for others’ emotions.
That is very common. Anxiety is often driven by your nervous system, not logic. Even when you know something is probably okay, your body may still feel tense or alert. Therapy focuses on helping your system feel safer, rather than trying to reason anxiety away.
Thought work can be helpful, but it is not the whole picture. Anxiety often lives in the body and emotional system as much as in the mind. Our work includes nervous system regulation, somatic awareness, and understanding the protective role anxiety has played, so change happens more deeply.
Chronic anxiety often develops when your system has learned to stay on high alert for a long time. Therapy helps you understand why your body is holding that tension and teaches skills to gradually reduce that baseline level of activation.
I offer a trauma-informed, somatic approach that honors all of you—not just your mind. Together, we’ll gently explore what your anxiety is trying to protect. Instead of trying to “fix” you, we’ll create space for self-trust, curiosity, and healing. You’ll learn tools that work with your body and emotions—not against them.
That fear makes sense. Therapy is paced carefully and focuses first on building internal safety. We do not push you to dive into anything that feels overwhelming. You stay in control of what we explore and how quickly we move.

More questions? Check out my FAQs page.